Domestic Violence Facts

 

Domestic Violence is about much more than physical violence.  Perpetrators will use many tactics to maintain control over the victim.  These tactics include:

Using Intimidation

  • Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures
  • Smashing things
  • Destroying her property
  • Abusing pets
  • Displaying weapons

Using Emotional Abuse

  • Putting her down
  • Making her feel bad about herself
  • Calling her names
  • Making her think she’s crazy
  • Playing mind games
  • Humiliating her
  • Making her feel guilty

Using Isolation

  • Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes
  • Limiting her outside involvement
  • Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying and Blaming

  • Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
  • Saying the abuse didn’t happen
  • Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
  • Saying she caused it

Using Children

  • Making her feel guilty about the children
  • Using the children to relay messages
  • Using visitation to harass her
  • Threatening to take the children away

Using Male Privilege

  • Treating her like a servant
  • Making all the big decisions
  • Acting like the “Master of the Castle”
  • Being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

Using Economic Abuse

  • Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
  • Making her ask for money
  • Giving her an allowance
  • Taking her money
  • Not letting her know about or have access to family income

Using Coercion and Threats

  • Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
  • Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare
  • Making her drop charges
  • Making her do illegal things

Characteristics of Abusive Partners

Initially, the batterer will try to explain his behavior as signs of love and concern but as time goes on, the behaviors become more severe. Abusers may not display all of these characteristics, but will likely exhibit some of the following:

  • Extreme jealousy
  • Controlling behavior
  • Becoming quickly involved in serious relationships
  • Unrealistic expectations
  • Separating partner from family and friends (isolating her)
  • Blames others for his problems
  • Blames others for his feelings
  • Hypersensistivity
  • Cruelty to animals or children
  • Use of force or coercion during sex (rape)
  • Verbal abuse
  • Rigid sex roles
  • Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde personality
  • Threats of violence
  • Breaking or striking objects
  • Any force during an argument
  • Objectification of women
  • Low self-esteem
  • Tight control over finances
  • Minimization of violence
  • Manipulation through guilt

The contrast between a perpetrator’s public image and private behavior with the abused partner sometimes appears confusing and contradictory. Perpetrators are extremely proficient at disguising their abusive behaviors in order to appear socially proper. For example, jealousy that turns to abusive rage in private may look like concern and sensitivity in public. Traits that may be interpreted as protective, caring aspects of a perpetrator’s personality may in actuality be possessiveness and control. Many times, perpetrators are able to control their hostile expressions of power and control until after courtship, marriage or the establishment of other committed living arrangements.

Scope of Domestic Violence

  • In 2011, SCCADVASA’s domestic violence member programs across the state provided shelter to approximately 1800 adults and 1300 children. They also provided non-shelter services-including counseling, court advocacy, and support services- to about 12,000 women, 6000 children, and 800 men, and answered over 28,000 hotline calls.
  • The Attorney General’s office noted that more than 36,000 victims report a domestic violence incident to law enforcement statewide annually. This is staggering considering that many victims never call or make a report to law enforcement.
  • The South Carolina ranks first in the nation for women killed by men according to the Violence Policy Center. Of the homicide victims who knew their offenders, 63% (33 victims) were murdered by a husband, common-law husband, ex-husband, or boyfriend.

National Statistics

  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injuries to women age fifteen to forty-four, more common than auto accidents, mugging, and cancer combined. (U.S. Surgeon General)

  • At least 85% of domestic violence victims are women. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, Reported in Feb. 2009.

    1 in 4 women will experience DV during their lifetime. (Tjaden & Thoennes, National Institute of Justice and the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention, Extent, Nature and Conse-quences of Intimate Partner Violence: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, 2000).

  • Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students reports being abused by a boyfriend. (Silverman, JG, et al., Amer. Medical Assoc. Journal, 2001)

  • As many as 324,000 women each year experience intimate partner violence during their pregnancy. (Gazamarian, JA, et al., Violence and Reproductive Health, Maternal & Child Health Journal, 2000)

  • On average, three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. (Bureau of Justice Dept. Statistics, 2005)

  • 65% of DV homicide victims had separated from their abusers prior to their deaths. (Bureau of Justice Dept. Statistics, 2005)